Sunday, December 8, 2013

Japan: Harajuku lovers

While on holiday in Japan, I kept a detailed series of notes in honour of Nanowrimo.  All posts about Japan comprise excerpts from my journals.


"4th November, 2013

Every subway/ metro/ mass rapid transit system in the world has its own quirks.  In Singapore, it's constant bomb warnings and reenactments; announcements in four languages.  In Paris, it's stubborn gantries that have to be shouldered open.  In the UK, the escalators took weeks to repair and in  Washington D.C., people were made to put little paper caps over their straws so they wouldn't drink on the trains.  

In Japan, or Tokyo, anyway, each station has a funny little jingle of its own.  I tried to learn a couple by heart today, but we crossed so many stations that I started to forget.
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This morning, we decide to tackle Harajuku.  I've heard about it all my life but never actually imagined that I would make it there.  Never actually imagined I would like it.  It looked too overwhelming.  But like it, I do.


We eat buns from a bakery for breakfast.  Mine is a beautifully caramelised, twisting confection spread with jam and custard, and bizarrely, topped off with a slice of grilled cheese.  Of course, it's delicious.  I engulf it in three bites and we wash it down with a marron cream latte.  Already, this day is looking auspicious.  

We find our way to Harajuku by train and I marvel at the way the gantries swallow up our domino-sized train tickets.  Two flat claws shoot out and snap at the cardboard as I yank my hand away.  I could stand there and watch those claws snicking all day.  Harajuku is already thronging with people before lunchtime.  My mum shows me a famous street and we plunge right in.


The one word I would use to describe the place is: rainbow.  The entire street is a blending, churning, exploding sea of colour, at once clashing and harmonious.  The teenage girls are beautifully dressed in stockings with prints on them like tattoos, their hair long and flowing smoothly over blazered shoulder.  They wait on street corners for their friends, chatting and playing with their phones.  Mascots dressed in crazy costumes and wigs shout slogans and attempt to call people into shops but the thoroughfare is heaving, packed shoulder to shoulder with buzzing people, and very few acquiesce.


Even the children here are stylishly unselfconscious.  A little girl with a tiny top hat pinned jauntily on her head grins at me as she trips past.


The shops are overflowing with psychadelic wares.  Everywhere I look, I see printed sweaters and backpacks and stacks of socks.  Some shops sell über girly fur-lined jumpers and lace collars, others boast chunky, high-heeled gothic boots.  Blonde lolitas mix comfortably with gyaru-styled nymphs.  Even the candy is rainbow-coloured.



We shuffle along, moved by the waves of humanity that nudge gently at our backs and by the time we emerge on the other end of the avenue, I am hungry to buy everything: scented gel pens and furry robes and prim pastel satchels and pouches shaped like bears and a hundred and one other things I don't need.  That is the magic of Harajuku - it sells you a bright, poppy, arcade-styled life where even the morose is delivered with a great deal of humour.

Only one house sits untouched by the clamour, a zen-looking old school Japanese house with pomegranates growing over its walls and black-framed windows.  A woman, probably the long-suffering owner, comes out to stretch a chain across the steps leading up to her front door so that none of the garish revellers will stumble their way in.  She stands on the step, watching them with consternation for a few moments, then goes back in.


On the other end of the street, we chance upon a cute little two-storey corner cafe.  A handwritten sign on the door apologises that it is non-smoking, but promises "sweets" within.  I'm quickly realising that "sweets" are a huge part of the Japanese diet - every signboard advertising food casually tacks on some mention of "sweets" at the end, as if leaving it out would be a dealbreaker.  The desserts, consequently, are so flavourful and evenly-balanced that I find myself wanting "sweets" at every meal.  This is my kind of city.


The manager is a very clean cut, man in wire-rimmed spectables who tries hard to explain to us that the drinks set includes hot coffee or tea.  We order a traditional Japanese dessert and it comes, two scoops of matcha ice-cream brushed with beans and studded with perfectly chewy mochi.  A swirl of white cream with rills of brown marron syrup melts softly on top.  It tastes as good as it looks, neither too sweet nor too bitter.


We tell the proprietor we love his airy, clean, neat-as-a-pin cafe (we do) and he is a little embarrassed.  He points the way to the famous Meiji shrine nearby and we begin the trek..."

Sunday, December 1, 2013

Yesterday/Today


Yesterday, I was a bridesmaid at my dear (and very beautiful!) friend Ann-Marie's wedding.  She looked so radiant and happy and I was delighted and very grateful to watch her walk down the aisle to a wondeful and very caring man.


Today after work, I hunkered down with a new scarf in graded yarn, tea, good herb cheese and Buffy.  Delighted and grateful once again, even if in a very different way.

Saturday, November 30, 2013

Thursday


Rebecca and I spent this Thursday taking pictures of Amanda and Ben for one of the (many!) pre-wedding shoots they are planning to have.  We used it as a test shoot and I have to say, I made a few mistakes but learnt a lot!

Plus, it's always nice when the subjects are photogenic and sporting.

More photos soon!

Thursday, November 28, 2013

Hello Flowers photoshoot


I've been taking so many photos lately that I'm hard-pressed to find time to edit them all.  Last Thursday, Rebecca and I went to the Hort Park to practise taking photos.  Rebecca's friend, Annie, from local company Hello Flowers provided us with four gorgeous bouquets and we had a blast shooting them!

Because it was our first ever proper shoot and we wanted to take advantage of the wonderful morning light, we made plans to meet at six in the morning.  On a work day.  

I awoke to the sound of a massive monsoon storm at 3am and a frenzied text from Rebecca saying that it was pouring.

Eventually, I dragged myself out of bed at five, forgetting to put on work shoes in the process and only realising that I was still in house-slippers when I was speeding down the ECP with the sun rising in my rearview mirror.  At Telok Blangah, Rebecca, blearily holding the box of flowers, greeted me.

Once we got over the lack of coffee in our systems, we made it to the Hort Park and started setting up.  

We decided to keep it simple with desserts and patterned bolts of cloth and let the flowers speak for themselves.


Rebecca spent the previous night wrapping random things for presents and to my great amusement, I peeled back layers of coloured paper to reveal decks of cards and boxes of tea.


These roses were so lovely they needed very little dressing up.


Pretty as the set up looks, the reality of the shoot wasn't so glamorous.  We were inundated with bugs and when we realised that the teacup would be empty, I suggested unwrapping the tea bag "present" and making a cup.  When we figured out that the tannin wasn't going to infuse into our cool water, I got down on my haunches and basically squeezed it out of the tea bag.  Classy.


By the end of the shoot, I was covered in soggy mud from where I had lain down to take shots at eye level and our legs were stinging with grass itch and mosquito bites.  But we were pretty happy with the product!

While my partner-in-crime packed up, I messed around a little with the macro extensions that my brother had lent me.


This big ant with only four legs was fighting the little ants for the iced gem.  I love how clearly everything shows up, right down to the tiny bristles on its abdomen.  This is hard-hitting National Geographic style wildlife photography, yo.

And just to show that dreamy, tranquil shoots are anything but:


But I think the thing Rebecca was most amused by was me turning at her doorstep in my house-slippers at the break of dawn and saying, "What's your shoe size?"

Because when a friend with slightly bigger feets lends you leather sneakers and nerdy white socks on the day that you planned to wear a dress, the result is this.

Monday, November 18, 2013

Conversation piece


My best friend Bec just sent me a TED video in which a woman talked about how she had managed to crack the code of online dating, find and marry exactly the kind of man she was looking for.  Amy Webb created an algorithm and point system to narrow down the men that she would go on dates or even consider having a relationship with and each time they fell just a few points foul of the 900 required, she said sayonara immediately.  

She's feisty and I really admire her discipline, but I while I fully intend to be as careful as she was, I'm just not built that way.

The truth is (and I wish it wasn't) that I'm too soft-hearted and I can't bring myself to be so regimented about it.

Of course, I'm getting better at this.  

When I first started online dating, I talked to everyone who wanted to talk to me with the idea that I shouldn't rule anything out; that maybe I should be as open-minded as I could possibly be.  "Babe!" Bec said one day to me after I'd told her I was considering someone patently unsuitable.  "Stop making exceptions!"  

Now, I am quick to cut things off at any lazy, casual pick-up lines, inappropriate conversation or any hint of a possible dealbreaker.  But I still find it tough.

Getting to know people that you meet at school or at work or through common interests is a delightful process.  Effortfully trying to get to know people who could be bots for all you know is altogether more painful.  It's tiring, so much so that I'm sometimes tempted to stop weeding the duds out with so much vigour and just give in to chatting with the people who want to chat with me.  

Even bigger than the inertia though, is the fact that despite everything I've been through, all the heartbreak and lying and cheating and pain, I still want to see the best in people.  Maybe it's naive and gullible, but I always wonder: what if the person on the other end is just like me?  Maybe they're shy to start with, not particularly eloquent but with the best intentions?

And so, despite what some people have warned against, I do my best to engage people, to give them a second chance because if I thought that I might really like someone, I would want them to give me a chance too.

I am very possibly wasting my time.  But if I accidentally said something stupid in a moment of folly or stuttered with shyness and failed to have a sense of humour when it mattered, it would break my heart to be written off.  Besides, as a former journalist, I've talked to hundreds and hundreds of random people on the streets and I firmly believe that most people are more interesting than they seem.  I suppose with that in mind, I'm willing to take a chance.

So I'm talking to a couple of guys consistently now.  I'm not necessarily sure about them, but unlike Amy Webb, I can't just put a sudden stop to it.  Eventually, natural attrition takes care of the people that aren't a good fit, but I have to admit that each time another contact crashes and burns, even as I tell myself it's just one person closer to someone that matches, I feel a little sad about it.

It makes me wonder how many such small endings one has to encounter before they find someone.  Or give up.

At one point, I was texting a guy I'll call George.  Initially, he seemed decent, smart, hardworking, fairly mature.  But a couple of days of conversation quickly revealed that things weren't going to get off the ground.  He had a couple of stock phrases that he would reuse in every conversation, stopping it dead in its tracks.  

One of his favourite lines was "Someone is working very hard".  

"What are you doing?" he would ask me, and when I told him I had just gotten home from work, he would invariably respond, "Someone is working very hard."

When I told him that I was making a powerpoint presentation on governance one weekend, hoping it would slowly ignite some kind of a conversation, he simply said (you guessed it), "Someone is working very hard."

In an attempt to be interesting, I sent George a picture of a Batman stamp I had carved out of rubber one day (my colleague Wan Ping gave us a wonderful lesson on stamp carving!) and all he had for me was, "Batman is interesting."  I suppose it is.

Contact between us didn't last for very long, but while it did, during that small window when I thought that maybe this was someone I would enjoy getting to know, I told Amanda about it.  

BFF that she is, she listened excitedly, asked lots of questions and then said, "Oh, George!  Come on, George!  I'm rooting for you!!"

And it was at that moment that I realised that no matter how much some connections missed the mark, I believed that most of them were just regular people like me, drifting around on the great Interwebs, looking for someone they cared for.  

And the truth is that I am sad when things don't work out because amid all the craziness, I am rooting for them too.
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